#IWSG – So you want to be a writer…. (pt 6)

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In my last episode in this series, I told you that you need to get used to disappointment as a writer. And to develop thick skin. In this episode, I want to talk about the dreaded C word: criticism. I can’t tell you how many writers I’ve run across who think the words they’ve written were handed down by God himself (or Goddess herself) and not one single word should be changed. This topic came to me because a writer in one of my online groups was complaining about how much she hated criticism of her work. I get it. We slave over the storyline and characters, and it’s our baby, and we want everyone to love it. My very own book, A Spicy Secret, … Continue reading

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#dSavannahDefects – Z is for…

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My theme this year for the #AtoZchallenge is #dSavannahDefects, aka “What’s it’s like dealing with #InvisibleIllnesses”. Or, in short, {some of} what’s wrong with me. … zee end Yeah, so I’m cheating with the topic for this letter, and it appears that I used these very same words for the very last post for the 2015 #AtoZChallenge, but, by golly by gum, I’m tired. I’m all talked written out. And you’re probably all read out, too. I feel bad I fell so far behind on reading other people’s blogs, especially my challenge partners. My personal high point in visits was F is for…, and traffic and comments went down after that. But again, I blame no one. This is a challenge, a race, a marathon; … Continue reading

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#dSavannahDefects – Y is for…

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My theme this year for the #AtoZchallenge is #dSavannahDefects, aka “What’s it’s like dealing with #InvisibleIllnesses”. Or, in short, {some of} what’s wrong with me. One letter to go… … yawn Seriously, peoples. I am exhausted. And I could NOT for the LIFE of me think of a topic for “Y”. Even The Mighty, the site I have spoken of before that features articles on a whole host of #InvisibleIllnesses, doesn’t even have a disease that starts with “Y”. (Their list of All Conditions A-Z ends with “W”.) I told one of my writing/editing buddies that fact, and he (Chris Votey) suggested yawn. And I’m totally using it. (Clearly.) Did y’all know that a yawn does not actually indicate boredom? That it means that you … Continue reading

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#dSavannahDefects – X is for…

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My theme this year for the #AtoZchallenge is #dSavannahDefects, aka “What’s it’s like dealing with #InvisibleIllnesses”. Or, in short, {some of} what’s wrong with me. Down to our last letters! Whew! … X-tras So, yeah. I’m kinda cheating on today’s letter, but that’s my prerogative as a writer. And blogger. So today is for “x-tras” that didn’t make it into other posts, for whatever reason. (Either I thought of it later, or I was tired that day, or whatever. Or it’s appropriate for today.) A lot of topics fit within my theme, but I didn’t get around to writing about them. I gotta be honest. This writing every day like this and answering comments is tiring. And I stopped visiting other blogs and tweeting them … Continue reading

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#dSavannahDefects – W is for…

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My theme this year for the #AtoZchallenge is #dSavannahDefects, aka “What’s it’s like dealing with #InvisibleIllnesses”. Or, in short, {some of} what’s wrong with me. And only three letters left… … wisdom teeth So. I have all of my wisdom teeth, which is odd, for a woman of 45 years. Most people have their wisdom teeth taken out when they are young, generally because there isn’t room in their mouth for them. Not me. I have plenty of room. My former hygienist just loved saying how I “have a big mouth”. Seriously. She thought it was the funniest thing ever. But now, I need to have my wisdom teeth out, and of course, it’s not the easy thing it is for most people. Heck, my … Continue reading

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#dSavannahDefects – V is for…

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My theme this year for the #AtoZchallenge is #dSavannahDefects, aka “What’s it’s like dealing with #InvisibleIllnesses”. Or, in short, {some of} what’s wrong with me. … vision, pt 1 So, I just read this really interesting article/post/Facebook note by a dude who is a software engineer. This guy, Blake Ross (that link is to his very own Wikipedia page), has just learned that most people can visualize things in their mind. He can’t. He has a condition known as aphantasia, or “a life without imagery.” Or, as he put it, a “blind mind’s eye”. The condition only just this past year received its official medical name. Because, who goes around thinking that something you experience every day isn’t something everyone experiences every day? (For me, … Continue reading

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#dSavannahDefects – U is for…

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My theme this year for the #AtoZchallenge is #dSavannahDefects, aka “What’s it’s like dealing with #InvisibleIllnesses”. Or, in short, {some of} what’s wrong with me. … United States Virgin Islands Today, we are defecting to the United States Virgin Islands. (And sorry. I don’t have a fun giveaway to go with this one.) Some of you may know that I lived on St. Thomas, the most populated of the U.S. Virgin Islands, as a child, from when I was 9.5 til I was 12*. Most of the thoughts here are from my memories of the place, and I’ve filled in a bit from google as needed. The island is very small – only 13 miles long and 3 miles wide, a rumpled bit of land. … Continue reading

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