{"id":4053,"date":"2015-04-24T01:36:57","date_gmt":"2015-04-24T05:36:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dsavannah.com\/blog\/?p=4053"},"modified":"2015-04-28T03:24:49","modified_gmt":"2015-04-28T07:24:49","slug":"2015-u-is-for","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dsavannah.com\/blog\/index.php\/2015-u-is-for\/","title":{"rendered":"U is for…"},"content":{"rendered":"

…Ugly<\/strong><\/h1>\n

“Ugly”<\/b><\/p>\n

If you’re ugly, I am ugly too
\nIn your eyes the sky’s a different blue
\nIf you could see yourself like others do
\nYou’d wish you were as beautiful as you<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
And I wish I was a camera sometimes
\nSo I could take your picture with my mind
\nPut it in a frame for you to see
\nHow beautiful you really are to me<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
Ugly, ugly
\nAll of us just feel like that some days
\nAin’t no rainbow in the sky, when you feel U.G.L.Y.
\nAnd that’s ugly, yeah yeah yeah<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
Ugly, ugly
\nAll of us just feel like that some days
\nAin’t no rainbow in the sky, when you feel U.G.L.Y.
\nAnd that’s ugly, ugly
\nAll of us just feel like that some days
\nAin’t no cure that you can buy
\nWhen you feel U.G.L.Y.
\nAnd that’s ugly<\/div>\n
<\/div>\n
So if you’re ugly, I’m ugly too
\nIf you’re a nut, then I must be a screw
\nIf you could see yourself the way I do
\nYou’d wish you were as beautiful as you, yeah
\nI wish I was as beautiful as you<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Writer(s): Elton John, Bernie Taupin, Jon Bon Jovi, Eric M. Bazilian<\/small><\/div>\n
“Destination Anywhere<\/a>” (1997)
\nCopyright: Bon Jovi Publishing, Polygram Int. Publishing Inc., Human Boy Music, Hst Publishing Ltd., Rouge Booze Inc.<\/small><\/div>\n
\n
\"U\"<\/div>\n

I was joking around with Gareth Young<\/a> about what my “U” topic should be, and he gave me a list. The very first word on it was “Ugly”. And it made me immediately think of this song by Jon Bon Jovi, from the album “Destination Anywhere<\/a>“, which I played over and over and over and over (so of course I know all the words). (Which, I should note: song lyrics are just poems<\/a> set to music.)<\/p>\n

Of course what resonated with me – then and now – is how many of us think we are ugly, when we are anything but. We compare ourselves to the ‘highlight reel’ of others – their best side as shown on social media and in person – and to completely falsified and ‘perfect’ images of people in the media. When probably, without makeup and lighting and photoshop and hairdressers and probably a whole bunch of other people, those supposedly “perfect” people look worse than you do on your worst day.<\/p>\n

And the word itself, is, well, ugly<\/em>. The hard ‘guh’ sound doesn’t help anything, for sure. Yet, it seems to have more power than, say, the words ‘pretty’ or ‘beautiful’. We believe “ugly” over “pretty”, any day.<\/p>\n

For instance, my very first boyfriend (using the term extremely l o s e l y) broke up with me because he said I was ugly. Or that his friends said I was ugly. Or something like that. The word “ugly” was definitely used in relation to yours truly.<\/p>\n

And in another instance, a good friend of mine remembers her aunt snapping at her “go wash your ugly face”. And even tho this friend is quite beautiful, the word “ugly” stuck to her, so that she can’t quite ever believe she’s pretty (and sadly, neither can I).\u00a0 And chances are, that aunt just meant her face was dirty and needed to be washed, not that she looked ugly.<\/p>\n

The dictionary.com<\/a> definition of the word is pretty heart-wrenching, too:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. very unattractive or unpleasant to look at; offensive to the sense of beauty; displeasing in appearance<\/li>\n
  2. disagreeable; unpleasant; objectionable<\/li>\n
  3. morally revolting<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    No wonder my friend and I were both so affected by being told that!<\/p>\n

    Amazingly, there is a woman who has embraced the moniker and hasn’t let it get her down (at least, not permanently). Lizzie Velasquez<\/a> “weighs just around 60 pounds and is blind in one eye due to a rare and unnamed syndrome that doesn\u2019t allow her to gain weight” (yahoo.com<\/a>). As a teen, she was called the \u201cWorld\u2019s Ugliest Woman\u201d on a YouTube video, and bullied incessantly. Instead of curling in a ball and crying herself to death, she “used that video to become an anti-bullying activist and motivational speaker”, and is the subject of a documentary, A Brave Heart<\/a><\/em>. And I just love the tagline: “Bullying Stories are Famous for Having Victims, Not Heroes.”<\/p>\n

    So banish <\/strong>the word “ugly” from your vocabulary. You may feel like it some days, as Jon sings so eloquently, but you ain’t. You’re beautiful. And so am I.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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