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\"J\"As we wind our way through the alphabet (or should that be “jog<\/b><\/span>“?), I shall use the letter J<\/b><\/span> to jump<\/b><\/span> on my soapbox (not that I actually have a soapbox, so I guess I’m actually jumping on… erm… my keyboard?) to discuss a topic that has been bugging me, as well as some of my facebook friends, where we have discussed this very thing.<\/p>\n

And no, it’s not the lost art of juggling<\/b><\/span>, nor that of dancing the jitterbug<\/b><\/span>. Nor is it Jabberwocky<\/em><\/b><\/span><\/a>, my very favorite poem by the wonderfully wacky Lewis Carroll.<\/p>\n

J is for Judging<\/strong><\/h1>\n

Now, as most of us know, the Bible has a verse that says “Judge not lest ye be judged”, but from my experience very few people seem to pay that verse any mind whatsoever. I find myself judging others too, even tho of course I shouldn’t, and when I realize what I’m doing, I try to stop and I say a prayer asking for forgiveness.<\/p>\n

Essentially, this topic came up because apparently some people think that because you’re on food stamps or some other type of government assistance, you shouldn’t drive a nice car or have an iPhone or an expensive handbag and your kids shouldn’t have nice things. Besides being a form of poor-bashing, this is a horrible form of judgement that has no basis on anything except what you see right in front you. You have no idea why that person may be on assistance, or how they happened to get that car or iPhone or nice handbag.<\/p>\n

Maybe they’ve been working odd jobs and saving every cent from that to be able to afford that phone. Maybe their mom gave it to them. Maybe they got it while living in a women’s shelter after leaving an abusive relationship. Maybe the kid with the expensive toy has it because their sibling collected and recycled aluminum cans for a year because they love their sister so much they wanted them to have that toy.<\/p>\n

I myself have run into this judging thing – I have a nice car. A BMW. A car that I bought used at a super-amazingly low price, that I worked my butt off so I could pay off the note way before it was due,\u00a0 a car that is now 11 years old but looks perfectly new. I have this car because it drives like a dream and I wanted one. And since I’m an adult, I bought one. (And for the record, it actually cost me less than my brand-new Saturn did.)<\/p>\n

And then I lost my job. And I had to apply for unemployment, and I felt guilty driving up to the unemployment office in my nice car to get my guv’t assistance, which I needed or I wouldn’t have been able to eat or pay my mortgage. Not to mention, I earned<\/em> due to working for 20 years and losing my job through no fault of my own.<\/p>\n

And then there’s smaller judgements that get made every day. That girl who looks perfectly healthy but has parked in a disabled parking spot? Well, she might have had ankle replacement surgery and can’t hardly walk, or she might have a bunch of autoimmune diseases that leave her in great pain. That middle-aged lady who does the same thing? She might have had four hip replacement surgeries. (And by the way, these three women are all people in my life who have those actual issues.)<\/p>\n

\"Me

Me in 1987. Shy. Nose in book. Skinny arms. But at least by then I had contacts…<\/p><\/div>\n

The person driving too fast on the interstate? They might be rushing to the hospital because they found out a loved one had a heart attack. The person driving too slow? They might be crying because they just found out someone died.\u00a0 (Those people might also be a**holes, but you should still treat them with kindness.)<\/p>\n

The person standing in the corner at a party with a weird look on their face? They probably aren’t snooty – more likely they’re terribly shy and have anxiety in social situations. The girl who met you one time and doesn’t come up to greet you at an event? She’s not a b**** – she’s also shy and can’t remember your name to save her life.\u00a0 Which makes her also feel embarrassed.\u00a0 The girl with no fashion sense and her nose in a book, always? She doesn’t think she’s better than you, or smarter than you… she just has no social skills and is terribly afraid of getting made fun of, like she has in the past.\u00a0 (And yes, the girl in all three of those situations happens to be me…)<\/p>\n

Thus, I tell all of you… until you have walked a mile – or 10 – in someone else’s shoes, you have no right to judge them. Just show them kindness. In doing so, you’ll help make this world a better place.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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