A is for…

…Adulthood

AWhen I was a very small child, I thought my parents knew everything. And that adults had everything sewn up and knew which way was up and which was down and how to do everything that ever needed doing. (And yes, that’s a whole bunch of cliches I threw in there, just for fun.)

And I generally assumed that I would be the same way… that at some point, I would become an adult, and everything magically would fall into place.

Many of you (may or may not) know that I’ve taught at the college level. What you probably don’t know is that a good many of my students approached me to have private conversations because of the great worry they carried regarding “being a grownup” aka… adulthood.

And I told every single one of them to stop worrying about it. None of us, not even me, a full-on almost-middle-aged adult, has any idea what we’re doing. Or what “adulthood” is really about. Except that I’m tied down with lots of responsibilities that my students aren’t: a husband, mortgages, pets, aging parents…  (Not that I’m complaining about any of them, mind you.)

A few hours ago, I chatted on Facebook with a former student of mine (now a friend), and she told me about something absolutely horrible that had happened to her, and said:

     “I dont think im competent
to be an adult anymore”

Which made me cry.

Not only for her pain and the horrible thing that happened, but also for myself. Cuz lawd knows, I don’t feel competent to be an adult either. I’m currently unemployed, I have all kinds of health issues, and I haven’t blogged in months.

So I’ll just leave you with Calvin’s thought, because I think he says it best:

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See you tomorrow for B! (Your guess is as good as mine as to the topic. :) )


My first partner in the #AtoZChallenge, Gareth Young, tells you about the #ALPHABET for #A … Be still my geeky heart!

And my other partner, Samantha Bryant, writes about the start of her journey to April 23 – her book release date!

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16 Responses to A is for…

  1. Alan S Young says:

    Adulthood is just a rumour passed around by previous generations to fool us into accepting unwanted responsibilities! I remember when I was 40, asking a senior director and aviator who had many years experience that involved some scary military stuff, “when do guys start maturing?” His answer was, “I don’t know cos it hasn’t happened to me yet.” Some people say we should resign from adulthood…. me…. I never joined. Ask SpartaGus! Ha!

  2. A good argument for staying a kid. That’s what I am working on!

    Best with your unemployed situation & happy A to Zing

  3. Stephanie says:

    Adulthood…overrated! How we convince ourselves that things will be better as an adult, is beyond me. I keep telling my 9 year old daughter to stay a kid forever. It is much easier. ;-)

  4. helldoesntownme says:

    I tried to grow up but it didn’t work. Finally, I got so tired I stopped. Life has been so much better ever since.

    Happy A to Z Challenge. (I’ll pray for your needs.)

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  5. Sylvia says:

    Love Calvin and Hobbes! Great way to start this challenge!

  6. Elaine LeDoux says:

    For many years I wondered when I was gonna feel like an adult. Screw it…it’s not looking like it’s gonna happen any time soon! Maybe in my next life. Perhaps I’ll have AM I AN ADULT YET? Inscribed on my tombstone although I still think I’d rather go with DID YOU BRING ME A PIZZA?

  7. AMomBlogs says:

    Adulthood is a state of mind and responsibility. It doesn’t matter what age you are it matters what age you act. I act like an adult but honestly in my mind I still feel very young and silly. Adulthood should mean acting like an adult, playing a role. After some time you eventually fall into that role and become the character. Ok enough of that BS. I look forward to following your AtoZ.
    I’m also doing the A to Z challenge, Organize Home Life on http://AMomsPointOfView.com

    • dSavannah dSavannah says:

      Thanks for stopping by! :) And how funny that your book’s name is A Mom’s Point Of View: Beginning Adulthood! Good luck with the #AtoZChallenge! Also ironic: I now have an attic that I am slowly filling up with very organized, purposeful things. Two things our posts have in common already!

  8. Betsy says:

    Great start, BT! I also love the design of the letters.

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